Don't you wish there was a sure-fire way to become a pro at talking dirty? You've seen all the movies, read all the books, even listened to a naughty audio story a time or two, but you are still at a loss for how all these people do it. Dirty talk from someone else sounds perfect, but when it's your turn to up the ante, you can often be left speechless and blushing.

There is a secret to dirty talk success. The most experience dirty talkers know exactly what it is and how to use it. In fact, it's so simple that once I tell you what it is, you will be shaking your head and wondering why you didn't come up with that before!

Are you ready to know the secret? Well, here it is...

Yes, that's what I said. To become a pro at dirty talk that is not enough to scorch the sheets, you have to be wiling to ask questions of your partner. Dirty talk is all about communication and knowing what turns your lover on. How will you ever know what trips that trigger if you don't ask the right questions?

There are several different questions you can ask that will bring the dirty talk fire to bed with you. Start out by asking questions that require an answer: Does that feel good? Do you like it when I do this? Do you want to try that? The answers to those questions will allow you to go further, and tell your partner what you like, too.

Then there are the leading questions, the ones that turn the conversation in the direction you want it to go. Consider this: When you're in bed with your lover and you're in the mood for bondage, perhaps you could ask if he or she has been 'naughty' and watch for the reaction. If the answer is 'yes' then you can go further, with something along the lines of: "You deserve to be punished for that, don't you?" A simple yes leads to the opening to introduce bondage: "I think I should tie you up and punish you."

You've just tapped into your lover's secret desires...because you asked the right questions!

The next time you are in bed with your lover, whisper those questions into their ear. Gauge the reaction you get and if it is positive, you can go further! By asking questions, you are giving your lover ample opportunity to speak their mind.

It's the secret to great dirty talk and better communication, both between the sheets and outside the bedroom. Now go find your partner and give it a go!